Monday, February 15, 2010

You tell me... Have we evolved?

Last night I was going through some of my old notes from my Communication classes I took in Undergrad and I stumbled across an article I had kept - I don't remember what we were studying but, it was an insert from Housekeeping Monthly, 13 May 1955 and I thought I would share with you guys.  I have made some snippy little comments but I would like to add, I love my husband very much and these comments are for women in general.  Not from me to Bret, because he would never!

The good wife's guide
  • Have dinner ready.  Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return.  This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs.  Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.  Sorry Bret Lee but you did not marry a cook.  Hate to break it to you...
  • Prepare yourself.  Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives.  Touch up you make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking.  He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.  As have I.  I will be in sweats.  If you want a ribbon go visit a 12 year old little girl
  • Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him.  His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.  A little more interesting? I'm sorry... Am I usually not interesting? And duty? Really? Are we using that word?
  • Clear away the clutter.  Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.  Umm... well, what if the clutter is partly his too?
  • Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc and then run a dustcloth over the tables.  Dustcloth?! Daily? You are lucky if I dust monthly.  Gross, I know.  Whatever.
  • Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by.  Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.  After all, catering for his comforts will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.  Or make me feel like a slave... either way. All I know is if I am making a fire you better notice my ribbon.
  • Prepare the children.  Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (If they are small). Comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes.  They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.  Minimise all noise.  At the time of his arrival, elimate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum.  Try to encourage the children to be quiet.  If you are expecting me to be a good wife and dust, cook and do your laundry you will just have to deal with some noise.
  • Be happy to see him.  Well duh.  Is that really even a necessary bullet point to make?  Although, I don't know how happy I would be to see anybody after dusting the house and changing kids clothes and putting a ribbon in my hair.  I promise you that ribbon wouldn't be staying tied and I would just be pissed.
  • Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.  Alright, officially feeling like a hooker. 
  • Listen to him.  You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time.  Let him talk first - Remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.  Says who? You don't know my husband.  What if his job is a janitor at a school.  I really don't care to hear what happened to him at work that day.
  • Make the evening his.  Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you.  Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be a home and relax.  If he needs to be home and relaxing then why is he coming home late or going out for "other entertainment"... AND I have cooked, cleaned and put a dang ribbon in my hair.  You better get your butt home!
  • Your goal:  Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.  Is there alcohol in this place of tranquillity? Mommy might be going for a martini.
  • Don't greet him with complaints and problems.  No worries - Apparently I am not allowed to speak first so by the time it's my turn with my less trivial information, I will be able to complain all I want
  • Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night.  Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.  Oh, ok.  Then don't complain husband when you have no wife when you come strolling in in the morning.
  • Make him comfortable.  Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom.  Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.  Haven't I been the one running around all day slaving away? Where is my comfortable chair? And where is my "hello hunny" kiss, kiss business?
  • Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes.  Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.  And I am a slave again/hospital nurse.
  • Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity.  Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness.  You have no right to question him.  If he has been out all night you better believe I have a right to question him! What is this so called "other entertainment" you had to seek because you needed to relax Mr.?!
  • A good wife always knows her place.  Oh yes, I must remember that one.

10 comments:

LWLH said...

Lol...I put this on my blog a couple weeks ago and I had the same sentiments as you. There will be no 'other entertainment', staying out all night, or master in my house...pppshhh!

Kristin said...

haha this is sooo funny! i am right there with you. especially about a bow in my hair. i'll have bows in our little hair but NOT in mine thankyouverymuch! haha

Brittany said...

Too funny! Thanks for sharing!

Anonymous said...

this is sooo funny! I may have to copy and post on my page!!

d.a.r. said...

Hilarious!!!!

I purposefully run the vacuum or do the laundry as he is getting home so that he can SEE how much work I do.

And psh. I make more than he does. Why can't he light the fire and tie a ribbon in his flippin' hair when I get home? :)

JG said...

I've gotten that in email several times, but it's not really an actual article: http://www.snopes.com/language/document/goodwife.asp

Jane said...

Love this! Hilarious!

Christine said...

so funny! Love your comments!!

katie said...

This is funny. And distrubing! I'm terrible by those standards.

Carrie said...

Nick showed me this article after a few months of dating and we had a good laugh together. Some of them aren't bad at all, but those last too are crazy in today's world!