a few things have happened over the past few days and weeks that has got me thinking, when it comes to behaving in public, what issues, if any, do people really care about anymore?
for example...
people who cuss extremely loud in public.
i am no saint and i will be the first to admit that i have an un-lady-like mouth at times but i am still very much aware of who my audience is.
are there kids around? yes, ok, not cussing...
are we in a restaurant where people can easily hear me? yes, ok, not cussing...
am i in church? yes, ok, not cussing...
these seem, to me, to be common decency approaches to when you should/should not use foul language but, i become more and more shocked at some things that i hear coming from people!
Next on the list....
kids who misbehave in public and get away with it.
i, as you know, do not have a child so i cannot really justify my opinions here BUT, what do you guys think about those kids who act like complete brats in public (yell/scream/hit/throw things) and their parents just sit there and act like nothing is going on? i mean, am i out of line for thinking these kids should be made to stop acting like little devils?!
Which of course... brings me to my next issue...
Corporal Punishment in public.
while this is Ms. Kate spanking her kiddo at home, it was obviously captured by stalkers... but none the less, when kids are misbehaving in public, is it appropriate to discipline them in public or should parents wait till they get home?
again, i do not have kiddos so i cannot truly relate but personally, do i believe kids should have full blown spankings handed to them in public? no, not really. do i think kids should be screamed at, jerked by the arms, and humiliated in public? again, no not really. do i think it's appropriate to take your child to the bathroom to discipline them if need be, yes, that seems a little more acceptable to me. less attention from on-lookers yet the kid still gets disciplined without being humiliated. just my thoughts though...
what do you think?
Next up we have PDA:
honestly, i think it depends on what is being displayed as affection. some people are just too much for sure! but overall, should or shouldn't couples publicly display their affection for one another?
or, how do YOU define appropriate PDA?
What about the way people present themselves in public?
we have all seen the people of walmart photos (plus the people in real life)... should they be expected to present themselves in public with a little more class (and clothing) or should people just back off from them and let them be what they are?...
or how about the soccer moms? or the people who attend public events with pieces exposed? i am not talking about bars where girls and guys go to look a certain way on purpose... i am talking about events at 2:00pm where kids are around and it's a family fun time...
should parents/adults/teenagers be expected to look presentable at these events?
And lastly, the health concerns...
smoking in public
if it is an outdoor area should people be allowed to smoke in public?
i don't smoke so i really cannot speak from a smokers perspective but i am just curious as to what others think. do i like coming in behind people who have been smoking and having to smell it and breath it in? no, not at all - but i know we all have rights and if their rights allow them to smoke where they are smoking i cannot really fault them for it. but should common decency make them realize that their smoke is bothering others so therefore take it somewhere else? or do some people just really not care at all?
So... that being said, this was not meant to be a rant - I am truly just curious is you guys have the same thoughts going through your head during the days when you run into these situations... or, are you the soccer mom with your butt hanging out while screaming eff you at the couch between drags of your cigarette and you believe you should be able to do that? No judgement. Pure curiosity!
Happy Cinco de Mayo everybody - Get yourself a skinny margarita and have a fab day!
5 comments:
THere was a kid at the mall Saturday throwing things at strangers while his parents said/did nothing. I wanted to smack him and I never think of hitting a child but it was so rude. And people who cuss in public loudly really get my goat!!!! AHHHHH!
pda grosses me out. I'm just a super private person, so when people are always all over each other I just say enough!!
I don't have kids yet either, but I've watched my mom raise my brother and sister who are 18 years younger than me, and she disciplines them in public when they misbehave. If your child is running around and yelling in a public place (an airport for example), there's nothing wrong with discipling them in public and possibly embarrassing them. They should be ashamed of themselves for behaving like that, and if you don't discipline them, you should be embarrassed by their behavior and yourself for allowing it. Kids should definitely be punished in public, if they're not, they know they can get away with behaving that way.
Those people at Walmart and anywhere who dress inappropriately, gross me out...they have to know what a mess they look before they leave.
And bad kids....ugh...it irritates me if parents just ignore there kids when they're acting out.
I don't believe in spanking out of anger, but that does not mean that the child cannot be dealt with in public. If they are behaving poorly enough, its time to leave, no matter how inconvenient it may be. And the child should know "if we have to leave because of you, your punishment at home will be even worse."
Too much PDA annoys me. Holding hands, a small kiss, or a pat on the back to your loved one is ok with me, but if I feel like your PDA should be rated PG-13, tone it down! :)
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